For April's addition of MommyLife, I chose to highlight the life of a Stay-at-Home-Mom. Since most of us are one or the other, it's a no brainer. And what was also a no brainer was asking my good friend Hannah to allow me to shadow her around for an afternoon and get her take on the subject.
Hannah and I have known each other for a little over 4 years now. We quickly became friends soon after Mike and I moved here. Hannah's husband Luke works at TFH with Mike, and we all got together (along with this crew) for dinner one evening, and since then, we all live life very closely. And with all the chatting we did that night at dinner, I distinctly remember something Hannah said. We were talking about God's purpose for our lives, and Hannah said that she believed God's calling on her life was to be a mom. She was about 5 months along with Emmerson at the time, and I later leaned that it was quite the journey for her to get pregnant. And it was also a journey for her to get to be in a place where she can be at home with her girls. But with sacrifice, planning, and hard work, she is doing just that.
Over a couple days of chatting, I got to see and hear about the life of a Stay-at-Home-Mom.
Me: So paint me a picture of what life is like as a Stay-at-Home-Mom.
Hannah: Well first off I can't believe I am blessed enough to get to do it. Honestly a mom is what I always wanted to be when I grew up... With that said-it's awesome but so tough!! I thought I had it down with Emmerson and then Hayden came along. She is a great babe but just juggling them both is a challenge at times. Not so much in raising them but in the pressures I put on myself- for instance trying to split my time so both girls feel loved, or choosing between play or craft time with Emme while Hayden sleeps, or showering or cleaning my always messy house.
We try to get out at least once a day be it Target, the play place at the mall, a friends house, or the playground down the street. It's usually a mad dash rounding us all up between naps since it seems like some one is always sleeping.
Hannah and I have known each other for a little over 4 years now. We quickly became friends soon after Mike and I moved here. Hannah's husband Luke works at TFH with Mike, and we all got together (along with this crew) for dinner one evening, and since then, we all live life very closely. And with all the chatting we did that night at dinner, I distinctly remember something Hannah said. We were talking about God's purpose for our lives, and Hannah said that she believed God's calling on her life was to be a mom. She was about 5 months along with Emmerson at the time, and I later leaned that it was quite the journey for her to get pregnant. And it was also a journey for her to get to be in a place where she can be at home with her girls. But with sacrifice, planning, and hard work, she is doing just that.
Over a couple days of chatting, I got to see and hear about the life of a Stay-at-Home-Mom.
Me: So paint me a picture of what life is like as a Stay-at-Home-Mom.
Hannah: Well first off I can't believe I am blessed enough to get to do it. Honestly a mom is what I always wanted to be when I grew up... With that said-it's awesome but so tough!! I thought I had it down with Emmerson and then Hayden came along. She is a great babe but just juggling them both is a challenge at times. Not so much in raising them but in the pressures I put on myself- for instance trying to split my time so both girls feel loved, or choosing between play or craft time with Emme while Hayden sleeps, or showering or cleaning my always messy house.
Hayden's cheeks are very well kissed :-)
We try to get out at least once a day be it Target, the play place at the mall, a friends house, or the playground down the street. It's usually a mad dash rounding us all up between naps since it seems like some one is always sleeping.
Me: You haven't always been a stay at home mom. You were a working mom not too long ago. What- besides a lot more time with the girls- is the biggest difference? Not many of us moms have lived in both " worlds".
Hannah: Hmm.. one of the biggest differences is the schedule of, well, life. When working everything pretty much hinges on work hours but at home full time I have to work the schedule for myself. (something that is not my strong suit). I do love the freedom of it all and since comfy clothes and Uggs are some of my favorite things, being able to have cozy days at home is a bonus.
dress up time!
Isn't Emme's room awesome!?
Me: You've got two beautiful girls- tell us about em.
Hannah: Ok! My girlies... Where to begin!
My Emmerson Shiloh is so funny! She loves animals and is hysterically afraid of bugs. She recently adopted 2 snails for pets. She loves routine and knows exactly what is supposed to happen next. She is a big sister to all younger than her. She loves dressing up, picking out her outfits in the morning, and loves nail polish and lip gloss. She can fill in the end of sentences in her favorite story at bedtime and is totally a daddy's girl.
Her stuffed animal, Honkers, goes almost everywhere Emme does, and is very loved.
Her pet snails :-)
I love that she went to the park in full princess garb
She loves to study and touch faces and is a mommas girl!
doll. baby.
that's her studying face :-)
Me: What would you say is the biggest challenge of being a stay at home mom?
Hannah: Hmm the biggest challenge... Besides the obvious of managing the household, I would say it would be trying to live up to standards. The ones I put on myself and the ones I think others put on me. And also trying to escape doubt and worry- that what I can give isn't enough or that every little "mistake" in parenting will greatly affect my the way my sweeties grow up.
LOVE the chandelier!
did I mention that my little dare devil came with me? Always up to no good :-) but man is she cute.
Me: Why do u think we moms do that? Put such heavy standards on ourselves and sometimes (and we may not even know it) on each other.
Hannah: For some reason I think we feel like we need to have it all together, when in reality i think our friendships, marriages, families etc would be more full of life and more life giving if we were just plain REAL.
Hayden loves that swing!
Me: That is exactly what I am realizing more and more. The pressure being a perfect mom is too hard, too stressful, and just plain unrealistic. But we continue to smile our best smile and act as if there aren't days where we want a do-over, or even a sick day from motherhood.
Hannah: I feel like there is no shame in simply not being afraid to be honest with ourselves and others, reaching out for help if needed and relying on grace. We aren't designed to do it all and be it all ALL of the time. I am able to rest in that. Not saying I always do but when I take a moment (sometimes they are hard to come by) and step back I can usually grab onto that hope.
Me: I know that I am incredibly thankful for you in the moments where I need someone to reach out to in my moments of frustration and difficulties- you are a breath of fresh air, and always find a way to remind me that the hard seasons will not last forever. So thank you for taking the time to share your heart, and thank you for opening your home to me and my little monkey.
You're awesome, Hannah, and so are your girls!! So glad I live life with you.
